Monday, September 30, 2013

Texted or Texted . . . how should the word be pronounced?


Texted or Texted . . . that is the question. 
Whether tis Nobler to the ear to suffer
The Slings and Arrows of insecure people
Or to take courage and correctly pronounce the word with two syllables.
 Text - ted. Not Texttttttt. 

Look.  I grew up in the sixties and seventies, and back then "text" was a noun, and never a verb. Like "desk," "text" was always a thing, never an action.

It was only in the late 90's that all of a sudden text went from words on a document to something people do on a cell phone.

As a noun, we never had to worry about past tense. What is the past tense of "desk," after all? But since "text" is now not only a noun, but also a verb, the pronunciation of the past tense "texted" suddenly became an issue.

For years I avoided speaking outloud the past tense of the verb so that I wouldn't have to publicly face the dilemma. Every part of my being wanted to use the two-syllable pronunciation, but the first time I said it out loud a family member looked at me and said, "That sounds so ignorant. If you know better than to say 'like-ted,' why would you think it's okay to 'text-ted,' Karen?"

That did serve to give me pause. For quite a while I mentally rephrased my statements before speaking aloud so as not to commit a grammatical faux pas. If I wanted to say "I texted my daughter and asked her to stop by," I would instead say "I just shot my daughter a quick text and asked her to stop by." 

I didn't want people to think that if I thought "texted" was pronounced "text-ted" I also thought that "liked" was pronounced "like-ted."

But the more I thought about it, the more I rejected the "like-ted/text-ted" argument. And I wanna kick myself for ever having accepted it in the first place.

The reason it's wrong to pronounced liked "like-ted" or looked "look-ted" is because it's simply the wrong pronunciation! The past tense for words that end in the "k" sound is to add a "t" sound to the end of the word. Hiked is pronounced "hikedt" not "hike-ted" just like booked is pronounced "bookt" and not "book-ted." Following that rule, liked and looked would have a one-syllable pronounciation, also. To pronounce any other way is incorrect.

On the other hand, words that end with a "st" sound or made past tense by adding a "ted" to the end of the word. Rested is pronounced "rest-ted" not "restt," and nested is pronounced "nest-ted" not "nestt," bested is pronounced "best-ted."

In fact, MANY (not all, but many) words that end with "t" need to have "ted" tacked on to make the change to past tense. Bat becomes "bat-ted," chat becomes "chat-ted," and part becomes "part-ted." But again, ALL words that end with a "st" sound need that second syllable to become past tense.

"Text" ends with a "kst" sound. I offer that AT BEST the pronunciation is up for grabs, but I believe the correct pronunciation is "text-ted" -- following the "st" rule rather than the "k" rule.

So I finally took a deep breath and announced -- in a room full of people -- that "I just 'text-ted' my nephew and told him to pick up some ice cream to go with the cake." I gave a furtive glance over the crowd to see if anyone had that "I thought she was more intelligent," expression on their face. No one did.

BUT! BUT! BUT . . . someone did say, I've always wondered what the correct pronunciation should be. Text or texted.

I gladly spelled out my reasoning, and almost everyone in the room agreed with me upon hearing it. Many even seem relieved to have the, largely unspoken, argument settled once and for all.

However, one person piped up, "I'm sorry. If we all know it's ignorant for people say 'look-ted' it's ignorant to say 'text-ted.'"

I didn't bother to point out again that 'look-ted' is incorrect, but to say 'text-ted' is no more ignorant than it would be say 'rest-ted.' I just gave her an up and down look, then smiled and plastered a "I thought she was more intelligent that," expression on my face and changed the subject.

I can't wait for technology to come up with a way to make "next" a verb!


(okay . . . I just found out that howjsay.com, which is a free online talking dictionary of English pronunciation, says it with two syllables. You can go to www.howjsay.com to see yourself!)

Sunday, September 22, 2013

Who Asked You? Reviewed Published in Philadelphia Inquirer









Character we can all root for

A new brand of vivid Terry McMillan protagonist, struggling with family and finances.

 
Who Asked You?
By Terry McMillan
Viking. 400 pp. $27.95


Who Asked You?  

Reviewed by Karen E. Quinones Miller


Betty Jean is not young and beautiful. She's not highly educated. She doesn't have a glamorous career. And she's not married to a fabulously handsome and wealthy man.
In short, she hardly resembles any of the protagonists in Terry McMillan's blockbuster novels - Waiting to Exhale, Disappearing Acts, How Stella Got Her Groove Back. But she does share one thing with them: Betty Jean is so real that everyone who reads about her knows someone just like her. And though you may not want to be her, you want to see her succeed.
Not many authors can create characters so vivid that readers can't help but sympathize with them. Even fewer can actually create a character with whom readers can empathize. Fortunately for us, McMillan is one of those few.
There's not a lot of drama or glamour in Who Asked You?, and the book starts off a little slowly. Then again, so does life. McMillan has done an outstanding job of creating characters to whom everyone can relate, dealing with issues with which everyone is familiar. Because of that, Who Asked You? is a book that makes you feel you are witnessing a friend's life and wishing for her the best outcome.
Betty Jean Butler is a middle-age hotel worker struggling to pay her bills while also dealing with a husband suffering from dementia and dying from cancer. Though she's the mother of three grown children, she gets more grief than support from them.
Her daughter, Trinetta, has three children by three different men and is strung-out on crack. Even after losing custody of her little girl due to negligence, she's still an irresponsible mom.
Betty Jean's youngest son, Dexter, is in prison for a crime he swears he didn't commit. He's eligible for parole and is constantly writing his mother begging for money and telling her about his extravagant plans for his life once he's released - all of which Betty Jean knows are totally unattainable.
Her oldest son, Quentin, is a successful chiropractor and serial husband, currently working on his fifth wife. Though he claims to love his mother, he doesn't bother to spend any time with her - or spend any money on her - to prove that love. In fact, he doesn't want anyone who reminds him of his African American heritage.
But if she doesn't get support from her children, she certainly gets it from her two sisters, though not the kind she needs.
Her younger sister, Venetia, is a Bible-quoting fanatic. She firmly believes that all of Betty Jean's problems would be resolved if she would just attend church every Sunday. Married to a wealthy but absent husband, Venetia strives to be compassionate, but can't really understand other people's problems because she's too busy denying her own.
Her older sister, Arlene, on the other hand, doesn't give a hoot about compassion. She's bossy, controlling, overly critical, and always has something to say. In her opinion - and her opinion is the only one that counts - if Betty Jean would just let her run her life, everything would be straightened out quickly. But while Arlene swears she knows what's best for everyone else, she's blind to the fact that her overbearing ways are suffocating her own adult son.
When Trinetta drops off her children for a few hours, then skips town with a boyfriend, Betty Jean is faced with trying to take care of two needy little boys while working full time.
Arlene weighs in quickly: Betty Jean should put the kids in foster care, put her husband in a nursing home, and move on with her life.
Venetia believes that this is Betty Jean's chance for a do-over. Since Trinetta, Dexter, and Quentin all turned out to be disappointments, she feels God is giving Betty Jean an opportunity to prove she really can be a good mother.
Then life finally rips off Venetia's and Arlene's blindfolds, forcing them to deal with the problems in their own households. Will the sisters learn that by leaning on each other, they can all grow strong enough to stand alone?
This is not a fairy tale - there's no Prince Charming, no Fairy Godmother, and no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
Instead, there is a loving husband who was once a rock, but is now a burden; sisters and friends who say they are trying to help, but give more grief than support; and a seemingly never-ending struggle to make ends meet. But, in writing this book, Terry McMillan reminds us that no matter what, there's always the possibility of a Happily Ever After.



Karen E. Quinones-Miller is a former Inquirer staff writer whose novels include "Satin Doll," "Passin'," and "An Angry-Ass Black Woman."